If there were ever a trivia question asking about my favorite music time period, the answer would be the nineties R&B. During the 1990s, a high volume of R&B music was hitting shelves, making it challenging to stay up-to-date. On this week’s Slow Jam Saturday, I’d like to pay tribute to a group that may have slipped your mind – II D Extreme and their slow jam, If I Knew Then (What I Know Now”).”
In 1993, the trio consisting of D’Extra Wiley, Randy Gill (Johnny Gill’s brother), and Jermaine Mickey debuted with the single “Cry No More.” Their self-titled debut album was successful with hits such as “Up on the Roof” and “Let Me Love You.” For the next two years, they toured extensively to promote their album. In 1996, they returned with their second album, From I Extreme II Another, led by the single “If I Knew Then (What I Know Now).”
Written by group member D’Extra Wiley, the track explores the regret and longing of a man who realizes the mistake he made in a past relationship. The lyrics discuss the emotional distress and sorrow experienced when someone loses a loved one and the recognition that their pride and inability to communicate effectively contributed to the end of the relationship.
Each member of the group takes a turn singing the lead vocals, expressing their deep regret for not being able to let go of their pride and walking away from their partner. They confess that their ego blinded them, and they ignored the actual call of love, failing to comprehend the weight of their choice fully. They have realized they lost their true love and felt overwhelming remorse for their actions.
The lyrics also touch on the difficulty of admitting fault and apologizing. The narrator acknowledges that saying “I’m sorry” is challenging for them, but they are willing to put their pride aside to rectify their mistakes and rebuild the love they lost. They yearn for a second chance, ready to start anew and let go of the past.
This song emphasizes the importance of cherishing what we have before it’s too late. Sometimes we unknowingly take our loved ones for granted, only realizing their worth when they’re gone. A great R&B ballad explores themes of regret, introspection, and the longing for another chance. It underscores the significance of effective communication, humility, and appreciating love while we have it. Kudos to II Da Extreme for delivering this message.
Final Grade: B+
“If I Knew Then (What I Know Now)” from the album From I Extreme II Another is available on all streaming platforms.
There are some albums you revisit because of nostalgia, and then there are albums you return to because they remind you just how high the standard used to be. Anita Baker’s Rapture falls into that second category. Released in 1986, the album did more than make Baker a star. It helped define what sophisticated, grown R&B could sound like without losing any soul, sensuality, or personality.
Gwen Stefani had already established herself as a significant force with No Doubt when she released her debut solo album, *Love. Angel. Music. Baby* in 2004. This week, while my iPod was on shuffle, one of my favorite songs from that project, “The Real Thing,” came on. Although the original version has an upbeat new-wave feel, the Slow Jam Mix takes it to another level and is the perfect choice for this week’s Slow Jam Saturday.
Unless you’re a music purist, mentioning Randy Jackson from the famous family is likely to elicit a joke. However, any serious Jackson fan knows that Randy had musical achievements long before the punchlines. Before he was old enough to buy a drink, he had already co-written “Shake Your Body (Down to the Ground)” and “Lovely One” with Michael Jackson.